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DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/23/2017 6:38 am

The older I get, the less the physical means. Beauty/physical elements are less important. because you got to talk to them , not just look. Physical elements do play a part in attraction.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


looking4fat 72T

11/24/2017 3:56 am

i think some of the previous respondents have missed the point. Everyone's idea of "beauty" is different. And mine is certainly way outside the current societal norm. But that is not what you are asking.



For me, in order to readily, willingly, and eagerly submit to a Man, both elements must be present. He must have the right attitude and a physique that i find stimulating. That does not mean that He HAS to fit my ideal. But there are certain physical traits that are total "turn-offs" for me. If a Man has too many of them, i am absolutely unable to "get into the moment." Or, in more simplistic terms, "If i don't find Him Hot, i get Cold." And that means that nothing is going to happen. - Always get a current picture before meeting.



My "gurl name" is Kate Coxuker. It is who i am and what i do.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
11/24/2017 8:39 am

What looking4fat says.....!

there has to be some physical attraction, without that, the mental connection wont hold long....
Or, maybe it will work the other way around! When there is that mental connection......

Finding a man attractive has nothing to do with what kind of fashion there might be, but more about male appearance...

He has to tickle my mind first.... make me curious, wanting to know more about him,
but, if he is just not taking care of himself physcial, clean, nice neutral bodyodor,
clean neat clothes, just being content with himself and his appearance,
it is all about control..... on all levels....
Hmm, hard work!!


1uncommondom 77M

11/24/2017 5:22 pm

The ego seeks quantity,
the soul seeks quality.


UoldermanFantasy 62M

11/26/2017 4:23 pm

mental connection is important , but you must also have a physical connection


Sir_Atrimpas 72M
95 posts
11/28/2017 12:18 pm

The mental bond will not only stimulate and heighten the physical, but the mental aspects outweigh the physical in the end. Creativity, arousal- emerge from the mental. Besides, the mental attraction will outlast the physical, in the end.

Atrimpas


DecibelRating 108M

11/29/2017 1:27 pm

This is a really good topic. Lots to think about here and strangely, super valid points on both sides of the coin. Sometimes the brain is so conflicting...


whiteslut4u2use 69M
42 posts
12/5/2017 5:21 pm

For me the mental aspect is more important than the physical. You have to be on the same page to have a good relationship,especially if it is in BDSM. If we aren't on the same page on that, then it isn't any fun and it just doesn't work. I know because I have been there.



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