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cuzisaid 53F  
5595 posts
9/8/2018 7:43 pm
Back To School - Safety Education Series© Blogger 2


Is there really ever a BAD time to refresh and expand your mind?

It is back to school time and as good a time as any to think 'education, knowledge and safe practices' in kink, d/s and S&M. I've seen some posts and cross posts recently touching on educating yourself including a thorough spanking post from rosaenaluin. Please be sure to check the blog pages if you are interested in more.

Today's tip is this and I find it most crucial:

KNOW YOURSELF, WHERE YOU ARE AND AT LEAST A STARTING POINT OF WHAT YOU WANT.

I hope some fellow bloggers will forgive me for cross posting their thoughts on a few things.

_neera Has this as her brilliant profile opening:
People often come here in search of a sort of settlement. A type of peace. And this is not a place for peace.
She is so right!

There are also NO 'special' rules that currently and automatically exist for 'lifestyle' people or relationships here, that differ from any other person or relationship you have ever had unless YOU set and make them so with your partner.

tahimikbayani Just made a post that included in part:
On several occasions she would indulge my Dominant nature. She usually equated kinky play with her admiration for Fetish Fashion or clothing closely associated with BDSM. For her though, wearing the clothing was a means of expressing her sexuality. What she(sic) emphatically didn't like or submit to, was pain or the need for pain, discipline, or control through bondage. On the rare occasion she did accept being restrained in cuffs, rope or leather straps she hated it.

I mentioned in that post:

In the kink realm or not, common understanding of what a need/want/role encompasses or is, TO EACH PERSON, is by far the biggest hurdle and confusing factor.

Thinking of a role and yourself (or desired partner) as dom or sub when they are in fact a top or bottom, kinkster, bondage lover etc etc etc can cause either or both to be unfulfilled and give up sooner rather than later.

If you are unsure, here's a general guide:
Almost ALL of the things we think of when using the BDSM term(shudders) are actually KINKS. They are physical.

Spanking/flogging/exhibitionism/clamps/bondage/topping/bottoming/fetishism/anal play of any kind/Sadism & Masochism at the far heavy end of the scale. If it makes you wet, hard or excited sexually....it's a KINK

D/s is strictly mental. Period.
It is the way you want to interact emotionally, psychologically ie. 'your place/role in the relationship' and there are big big big differences between Big/little and master/slave!

Knowing what YOU want or need, what you see or desire the balancing partner role as AND being able to express it, at least in part verbally, is a huge first step in the right direction that we should all take before we can even start to open the mind to...

"OK, IM INTERESTED. WHATS NEXT?"

Play smart, play SAFE and keep it real with or without the fun.

Have a tip to share? post it on your own space or leave it here Thanks for reading

Learn you
Know you
Love you

Anything else is possible after that.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/8/2018 7:50 pm

I personally have always stated that I am a kinkster/kink lover NOT A dominant Or a submissive.

My likes and wants and needs are the physical ones.
I like clamps and clothes pins,
floggers but not whips,
Erotic spankings are yummy but try and tell me I need punished for vacuuming wrong and ......

Again, knowing what you want, can compromise on and/or adapt to and what you NEED from a partner and what they in turn want, need, are looking for is pretty important. Vital really to the health of your body, head and hopes.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


McGripper 54M

9/8/2018 9:05 pm

The merits of education and safety make it a very dull experience.
Bluff your way through, with confidence and wear a helmet when possible, is much more fun!

The opinions and understanding portrayed in my blog are mainly unfounded, misguided or wrong.


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/8/2018 10:40 pm

    Quoting McGripper:
    The merits of education and safety make it a very dull experience.
    Bluff your way through, with confidence and wear a helmet when possible, is much more fun!
Lol your signature can stand in for my reply!

Yeah, titillating blog lustage, it isn't.

AT least you know how you handle your kink and are honest about it.

Nooooooo fancy-schmancy stuff for McG!

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/8/2018 10:44 pm

    Quoting  :

Bitch bitch bitch

Never happy even when folks are just backing you up at YOUR request.

Lemme school ya son. I did this newfangled internet thing called CROSS POSTING.

It was a good article with good comments that i thought should be read so I posted the link to it.

Without your name cuz you've alienated so many folks here that many would not have checked it out had your name been blatantly posted HERE.

all my genius ruined by your dickitude.

damn

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
9/9/2018 3:49 am

I loved your reply to Vlad

I looked at his post even though i knew it was him and left a comment.
It's important to refresh and remind ourselves that the learning never stops. It's also great for anyone just starting out.
I remember FoulMama's blog. It was brilliant for me when i first joined on here

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
9/9/2018 9:01 am

Taking the time to know oneself and recognize who we really are and what we crave makes us all the more richer.


jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
9/9/2018 11:26 am

cuzi

A GREAT reminder!

Yes! Not everyone loves every kink and discussion is vital....


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/9/2018 2:33 pm

    Quoting MissLadywood:
    I loved your reply to Vlad

    I looked at his post even though i knew it was him and left a comment.
    It's important to refresh and remind ourselves that the learning never stops. It's also great for anyone just starting out.
    I remember FoulMama's blog. It was brilliant for me when i first joined on here
It shouldn't have been needed, the educating of a fellow educator, but thank you for thinking I replied well.

It is kind of sad, isnt it? The prevalent unwillingness to help or support each other around here now a days.

When so many of us started here there were so many good folks around willing to help each other out whether online or real time players and like you, I found a lot of good information from folks like Santa, MrMalaprop, FoulMama, Hisfetish, Miss_Chris47 and so many others especially those that were local to me that shared hands on.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/9/2018 5:36 pm

    Quoting  :

*waves to Your Aunt Lydia*

If you weren't wearing sunglasses indoors during A hurricane, you would clearly see the name vlad (thats you) listed near the close of the post WITH a referral to post tips there so you were indeed named.

That was on top of having your exerpt noted as such, praised by me for being so well written, given its own font type to set it apart from my thoughts and including a link to said post so anyone reading could see it in full on their own.

My due diligence was more than done.

My diligence far exceeds your consistent lack of same, for the only thing I see you stating here is that you were ONLY acknowledged in 5 ways and didn't see your name in yellow instead of white.

What you did see somehow,was fictional woodland characters and dead emperors unless those were just UV blocking in anticipation of glorious golden name shinage misspellings(you yourself did not 'cite' or link to the unfathomable names in your comment so your reference was unclear).

Please note on todays new post that I have COPYRIGHTED my post title for this series blog post effective immediately .
While I would be within my rights to advise you to not use any semblance of it from here on out without risk of legal action, I chose instead in a show of MY GOOD will toward YOUR BAD attitude to allow you to continue your BTS posts with your current title phrasing.

Since I have never wanted to OR been known to be deliberately unfair or to incite or perpetuate undue hardship or stress on anyone, you will find ALL traces of you removed from this blog post.

I will attach a photo of it as it "was" for posterior perpetuating posterity.

Its the least I could do for you.

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Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


lastguymn 56M

9/10/2018 5:56 am

Nicely stated, Cuz. And knowing yourself will pay dividends in all aspects of life as well.

And to your first rhetorical question, my feeling is that the only point where you should stop learning new things is after the point where you stop breathing.

~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/10/2018 11:11 am

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    Taking the time to know oneself and recognize who we really are and what we crave makes us all the more richer.
It really does and it sets us on the path to being able to have/get what we want once we can break it down into individual definable goals

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/10/2018 11:14 am

    Quoting jenny14:
    cuzi

    A GREAT reminder!

    Yes! Not everyone loves every kink and discussion is vital....
I think we all need refreshing reminders of the things that are important(that get drowned out in so many options) every now and then, and as you say frequently

communication is key to getting and having what you want/need.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/10/2018 11:18 am

    Quoting lastguymn:
    Nicely stated, Cuz. And knowing yourself will pay dividends in all aspects of life as well.

    And to your first rhetorical question, my feeling is that the only point where you should stop learning new things is after the point where you stop breathing.
Thanks, Dibsy

Knowing ourselves is....hard but at least in some ways it really is crucial to make the effort to know yourself and what you specifically want before anyone else can know you or even try to provide it or at least offer it.

Knowing learning and growing is what life leads us to daily? absolutely, I agree my friend.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14987 posts
9/30/2018 12:46 pm

    Quoting  :

Lolololol.

Just like........snake, huh? Im not sure thats how the saying goes, but..... Better you than me cuz youz a cage RATTLER from way back!

I WOULD believe you cuz a friend here a while back clued me in to Trex being less lizard like and more chook descendant. How I never caught that in Jurasic Park in '93 I do NOT know.
Or were you just saying you were running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Or maybe you are bragging about chics chasing you and blindly groping your poor defenseless male lusciousness. All the above are connected.

Im still on a hummus and falafel kick more than curry. Id be so fucked trying to find Indian food around my neighborhood. Though Im not sure how authentic the falafel is since my favorite new medi place(Naf-Naf) puts grated jalapenos in theirs.

Sea to sea and coast to coastest, youz the wild child with the mostest! Xoxo

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~



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