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drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
1/8/2018 4:12 pm

My vote is for safe fantasy.......no attachments, no responsibilities


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
1/8/2018 4:30 pm

To me, on line play is a fantasy. It has no connections to reality. It is entertainment or just plain old masturbation fodder.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Miss_Boo_Boo 54F
3992 posts
1/8/2018 6:40 pm

For me online is an extension of the real thing... it isn't a badly woven fable or fantasy, but a direct connection via cam/mic and following thru with actions/activities. That said...

ain't nothing like the real thing!



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Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
1/8/2018 9:43 pm

Online play is safe fantasy that can create real emotions and connections, but in the end it is fake unless it can be reinforced by play in person.


TheBargee 68M
16315 posts
1/9/2018 12:49 am

In the past for me it has been a means of exploring mutual desires, seeking a connection that may or may not exist. On occasion it has been a safe way of exploring areas that I would never dream of going in real life, or even a way of making the impossible possible.

More recently it has become a perfect way of stoking the fires of desire. An wonderful extension of real life.


AC_Wright 58F
323 posts
1/9/2018 1:51 am

I can leave at any time I want.

He could do something that was too painful, or say something—something intolerable, unforgivable.

I would put a few changes of clothes into a wheeled suitcase, and call friends who could put me up for a few days. If my friends failed; hotel now, pay for it later.

I would put the packing and moving job on my credit card. I don't do that, even though I could because he is my owner and I am his slave. Both of these things are only true in fantasy, they are a flight of fantasy that is necessary to me and to him. It is a symbiosis that makes him use a light hand when he punishes me for my very rare infractions and it makes me think twice before I speak to him.

He gets sex on demand because I have no right to refuse. I get to beg him to stop going deep, deep in while wearing nothing but rope because I have always needed to have no right to refuse.

All of this, the handcuffs, the dildos, buttplug, the hundreds of feet of soft-as-a-sweater hemp, the home-made, overstimulating probe that clicks on to the end of one of those square batteries—all of it is the stuff of fantasy. I can turn down any of it, or all of it, but only at the risk of ruining our shared illusion of his control, and and losing his interest, and breaking what we have forever.

I have what I want, and I'm a little too old to start over.

That is what we do but what about the things you *can't* do because you can't be in the same room together; or the things that can't *be* done; or the things that really shouldn't be done by anyone who knows what an emergency room smells like? what about all that?

For that, there is online play. But that can be anything from "insert slot 'a'' in tab 'b" to long, elaborate explorations of different and difficult worlds where you....

Stand in the pouring rain under an almost useless umbrella, your suit soaking through as you stand with his briefcase between your feet and stay exactly where you are because you know what he does when you go beyond the ordinary. You know that he will come to you and take you to a private place and dry you off and as he does, his hand will slide into your shirt as his lips graze your neck.

You stand in the rain because you know he will reward you. You know he will reward you again and again.

Or...

It's games day because he said it was

You are kneeling on the hardwood floor between four heavy steel plates from which threads eminate, binding you—no, not binding, reminding you to hold yourself in the position of someone who is bound with her hands behind her back and her legs wide open. An orange cylinder the size of a flashlight is held between your lips and against your clitoris with length after length of surgical tape. The cylinder makes a sound, a warning.

Vibration and electricity.

You grit your teeth go rigid. You musn't move.

Vibration and electricity.

The game has simple rules. The cylinder will have its fun with you at random intervals. There will be one stroke of the strap for every thread he finds broken when he returns. You mustn't break the threads You are not allowed to orgasm. He will know if you have.

He will be back for you when he comes back.

So...wet... It pulses inside you. It opens and closes like a fist.

Vibration and electricity...

Five men burst into the room...

It's all fantasy. some of it just has people carrying out parts of it, some of it does not.

Online play is where we keep the last inch of BDSM play.

Schrille Schlampen aller Länder, vereinigt euch! Ihr habt nichts zu verlieren als euren Kontakt mit Versagern!


Master_Lance_DK

1/10/2018 1:32 am

In my optics, modern technology is quite excellent as a complement to IRL experience, but can not stand alone.
Exercise IRL adds so many more shades that can not be supplied by electronic means, but many get huge benefits through online experience.


submanbxl 68M

1/10/2018 1:47 am

As r/l is a difficult option for me in my current circumstances, only is an excellent extension of live BDSM, as long as Y/you find the right partner. That takes the same amount of care and effort as finding a r/l partner. If Y/you can mange that, then online can be quite satisfying.


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
1/11/2018 12:44 am

When it is about fantasy? i dont need an other person on the other side of the screen.
I am able to handle that on my own, in the privacy of my own bedroom, not in front of a screen?!

When it is used before meeting eachother again, to set the tone... well that is oké with me.
But only online fantasy exchange?
Wont work.

I need to feel, smell, watch him in real life.
Feel the energy between us.

Also, you are very vulnerable for black mailing, bullying from that online person..
You make your own safety very doubtfull.

When in a longterm relation? That might be something different, because you two know each other. Know his adress, his workplace, his family maybe?

Otherwise, that orgasm is not worthy the danger you put yourself in.


Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
1/13/2018 11:57 am

As a precursor to a real meeting, I can imagine its value, but like cybersex per se, what's the point? Very few people have the skills to write well enough for it to be captiating (pardon the pun). I'm not a fan of porn much and I can't see the point of cam, either (particularly with the real danger of being blackmailed) - mais chaqu' un a son gout, at they say.


Mr_C030 42M
34 posts
1/26/2018 12:54 pm

Interesting discussion.
I particular find it very exciting to play online and to fulfill the other part and/or my fantasy.


Domwlf69 64M/57F

1/28/2018 7:01 am

It's a fun way to play with people that live too far away to meet.



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