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kezza96 28F
0 posts
10/18/2017 9:23 am
Is a Bird in the Hand Worth Two in the Bush?


So:

I have quite a specific idea of who I'm looking for on Alt:

A single female
A partner to be and grow with, rather than a one-off fuck
Someone of a submissive nature
Someone close to my age
Someone geographically nearby
Someone who shares some of my tastes and kinks and wants to explore them further

Apparently, no such person exists on Alt, or at least logs on when I do, so what should I do?

Compromise on one or more of the above?
Accept that this site doesn't have the answers and move on (but it has had the answers before...)?
Just keep on with the vanilla dating in the hope that the next girl whose ass I finger develops a taste for it and/or reveals this is her greatest turn-on and while we're talking how do I feel about water sports?

Is it a question of staying true to myself and exercising patience or abandoning patience and principle in favour of some degree of activity?!

Just wondering.

FYI, I've had a bird in a bush...and removed a bird's bush too, but more of that later.

DancingDom 74M
22476 posts
10/18/2017 6:49 pm

Unfortunately, finding partners is not as easy as making instant oatmeal. be patient, none of these sites are easy to find partners that fit our requirements. Best to you in your search.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


likesmatureones 55M

10/19/2017 4:03 am

My humble advice....there is a reason that alot of women are still on so and so bdsm site....sure they all will claim that they are just here or there to chat w friends\ blog...

But the reality is they are still waiting for that prince(ess) charming to come alone and sweep them off their feet...they set their standard high and will never met anyone.

Your not asking for the moon here..how can you further compromise on things like omg she has to be close or single or wish to be in an actual relationship instead of just a fuck.

I suggest going fetlife and looking for a local group that caters to your needs..plenty of kinky folks arent in traditional groups or clubs or even on alt. Younger people tend to reinvent the wheel hang out in non traditional ways...


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
10/19/2017 5:33 am

To learn to be successful, hang out with successful people. Who do you know who's been successful at doing what you're trying to do? Network with them.

If you don't know anybody like that, you've discovered your first problem. Solve it.


xntrick 59M
2927 posts
10/27/2017 2:34 am

No one said finding miss right would be easy. Some people search for many years with no luck. I'd stay on this site but also look into fetlife and collarspace. It also makes it easier if you're willing to relocate which is something many people don't consider.


kezza96 28F

10/27/2017 8:05 am

Great advice - a big thank you to all of you. I will take it on board and continue to patiently seek 'the one'. Or, at least, the next 'one'.



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