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justalittle5537 58M
19 posts
8/20/2017 9:46 am

I always forgive to whom is looking for forgiveness.


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
8/20/2017 10:03 am

Well, I pick #3.......There were times I spent so much energy on being mad and holding a grudge I didn't see all the good right in front of me......never again.

Now.......get back to #9


slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
8/20/2017 10:17 am



Slave rick


Hard2LoveNurse 66F
9492 posts
8/20/2017 10:39 am

I pick #1
But the way I see it, if you hold the grudge against your trespasser, He has won. Your the one that feels the anger and hurt and you live with it, always, until you find a way to forgive and forget. I try to forgive, no, it is not easy and sometimes takes longer than I like, but I have learned.


"Seeking soul-mate!! Seduce my mind and you can have my body, touch my soul and I’m yours forever! "


rosaenaluin 65F
10832 posts
8/20/2017 10:52 am

1 and 2, it is an ongoing battle, with myself...

sometimes stupid people really get at me.... i confess

i am tolerant to a whole load of bullshit, but sometimes, it is just 1 too many!

so.. i struggle to be good....


marshamay 35F
5934 posts
8/20/2017 11:19 am

i tend to react according to the intent and depth of the act and the person . One size don't fit all , but some things aren't so much . #6 is nasty , I 'll save that one for special folks , yes.


LifeXperience 32M

8/20/2017 12:56 pm

3 and 4 good combination I think.
7 Depends on what someone did.


shellfac1 62F
2293 posts
8/20/2017 2:51 pm

1 for sure. I recently wrote a post about how my One said very hurtful things, including that maybe we were through. The thought crossed my mind "how dare he! Nobody talks that way to me. I don't need him anyway!" I actually looked on CL as I imagined moving forward without him in my life. But it didn't last a day. I have no pride. I would so much rather forgive him and have him in my life...there is no way I'd be better off without him and I know he feels the same about me. Once I realized that, all animosity was gone and forgiveness was simple and effortless. We are better off now that we have dealt with the issue. I don't hold grudges.


shellfac1 62F
2293 posts
8/20/2017 2:55 pm

    Quoting Hard2LoveNurse:
    I pick #1
    But the way I see it, if you hold the grudge against your trespasser, He has won. Your the one that feels the anger and hurt and you live with it, always, until you find a way to forgive and forget. I try to forgive, no, it is not easy and sometimes takes longer than I like, but I have learned.

I totally agree. There have been a few people in my life whom I felt had wronged me and they had no regret. I had to work at forgiving them. I did it for me, not them. I I actually have read several books on the subject of forgiveness. If a person regrets their hurtful action, or Did it by accident, it is easy to forgive them.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
8/20/2017 7:12 pm

Forgiving those who are remorseful, good idea. Holding a grudge, being angry and such saps too much energy and distracts the mind. Best to forgive if you can. Never forget, but do forgive if you can.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


steelcager 61M
1996 posts
8/21/2017 12:55 am

1) everyone has the ability, forgiveness is a choice
2) great quote from 2,000 years ago
9) want to add to my personal collection of naughty pictures

and, loving all of your profile pics the last 2 weeks!


brandygirasol 54T
9365 posts
8/22/2017 6:17 am

To Me Life Is Waaaaaayyyyy Too Short To Ever Hold A Silly Old GRUDGE


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
10/3/2017 9:10 am

If you mean, behaving as if it didn't happen kinda forgiveness, then mostly yes.

Just, I think sometimes it - forgiveness - comes AFTER a temporary grudge, Orrrr repeated, unaddressed grievance.

In the last case, that calls for activism from me.

Provocative (& thorny for me) question, there Karen.
Good for you!
BD~
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Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace



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