610 views

This thread is intended to announce the single most important quality that W/we look for in a prospective D/s partner. As a matter of fact, list the top 3. This is not necessarily O/our opinions of what is needed for a good Dominant or submissive...but instead for O/our own personal desires.

For instance...If Y/you are Dominant, list the 3 most important qualities in a submissive that You feel are necessary to being a successful match for You and Your personality and relationship needs/desires.

And the same for the submissives...the 3 most important qualities in a Dominant for you to achieve the satisfaction and contentment that you desire in a relationship.

Also, state what Y/your ultimate goal for a relationship is...marriage, commitment, 24/7, play, etc.

Thank Y/you for Y/your participation and revealing such personal info about Y/yourself...who knows...maybe Y/your perfect match will see this and contact Y/you

I agree wtih coyote that intelligence must come first, and along with intelligence, creativity.

I'd also want my opposite to be honest and honorable. These are both an absolute must.

And, of course, she'd have to love me with all her heart and all her soul.

Are these things too much to ask?

1) Warmth-For me, it's the most important quality from which affection, caring and the desire to work through any difficulties is derived.

2) Intelligence-Sometimes I think enough warmth would overide my need for this but truthfully, if we can't converse on a higher level, it's just not going to work for me.

3)Monogamy-This is a guaranteed immediate no questions asked deal breaker if it's transgressed. I wouldn't even take Liv Tyler back if she cheated on me!

Anyway...it is only fair that I too answer.

First & foremost...I need strong, solid and proven principles/ethics/values. This is the single most important indication of how loyal she will be, what she will do under certain circumstances, and what her belief system is. I will look into past behaviors and reasons foe it, if she lies to others she will lie to Me, etc. Honesty, loyalty, devotion and many other characteristics will reveal themselves under these morals.

Second...intelligence...Now keep this in mind...the smart girls are smart enough not to get hooked up with Me! but, still I want a woman who can contribute to O/our thing with well thought, appropriate and important contributions toward O/our success.

third...a sense of family and commitment. The need and desire to give and get a commitment and the appreciation for one when she gets it. I need her to value O/our thing so much that NO vice will distract her, or cause her to violate O/our commitment.

Somewhere in there has to be beauty, sense of humor and sensuality also.

That shouldn't be too hard to find..if I take 4 or 5 women and take their best parts and combine them...now what did I do with that hatchet.

After re-reading the subject box for this thread, and comparing it to the Art by Coyote, I fear it is too similar to Coyotes thread regarding the Art...I hope not...if it is...I apologize Brother Predator.

Thank you brother for illuminating what I just could not put My finger on...and I am sure the lovely Mistress Savannah should hear about these answers so that either neceessary modifications can be made to Y/your relationship and/or appropriate discipline can be rendered!

A sense of humor -- dry, dark, twisted (if at all possible) Somewhere along the lines things are going to get weird, and a strong sense of humor will usually pull you through when they do.

Intelligence -- It was once said that it's hard to have a duel of wits with an unarmed adversary. I want a partner who will challenge me, and make me better for it. Besides, talking about what's on the Home shopping Network gets old after about -- what, 5 minutes?

A sense of adventure -- a partner who is determined to try new things and push existing limits. The greatest killer of relationships is routine, so a determination to seek out new experiences will keep things alive. Some of those experiences will be exquisite, some will be disasters. (In that case, refer to quality #1 above.)

As for my relationship goal, for now I would say a regular, NSA play partner. But, who knows where it will go.

as far as goal for the relationship? i have to agree with mich .... happiness for both parties involved

---

~jackie

1. Brain. It's amazing what a turn-off dumb is. I once dated a woman who looked like a young Catherine Deneuve but had less to say than Paris Hilton. It did not end in a bedroom scene.

2. Consideration. I have been with the inconsiderate. The considerate are better.

3. Horny.

--Ted.

The MOST important trait they must have is....a pulse.

I know, I know, I'm quite the high maintenance kinda gal...but I realize a gal must have some standards to live by!