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Dom? Sub? Where to start....... 11/22/2003
The man that I'm dating is new to BDSM & I'm
a rookie. I know that I am a Sub, but I can dominate upon request
or situation. I want to explore & teach him, but I don't
know how to start. I want him to be able to find his place wether
it is Dom, Sub or switch. Can anyone give me advice on what
to try first (where to start) & find out.
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Response to Bdsm vs. gor 11/21/2003
In bdsm there is consent, mutual pleasure, mutual delight,
open communication, sheer joy. And reality.
<br>
You do not say which version of gor you are specifically
asking about, thus, I will give you answers based on the
novels. They are, afterall, the basis of the entire cyber
gor movement. Cyber or "real time" players
can give you their own answers.
<br>
In the ...
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Where is there Ds in Korea? 11/19/2003
I was just wondering if anyone knew of Ds clubs or event that
are active in Seoul. I have looked through a search engine,
but I have haven't found anything that is concrete.
Does anyone out there have any information for me?
I would appreciate it.
<br>
thanks
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RE: Knight in Shining Armor 11/15/2003
I couldn't disagree with you more, PA. An exclusive
swingers site would be Adult Friend Finder. While I acknowledge
there are swingers on Alt as well, this site is not exclusively
for swingers. It is rude of you to criticize other people
for looking for a relationship or "soulmate"
as you say. If you don't like it, go somewhere else.
If we weren't welcome here, our ads wouldn't be ...
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How to punish online... 11/15/2003
I played online for a while and my master had several ways
of punishing me. If you beleive that sub will obey, then
you can forbid them from masturbating for a period of time,
ground them. Or you can have her write something for you,
an erotic story about how she should be punished, an essay
about a topic you choose, write an apology and publish it
here detailing what she did wrong, ...
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Menstrual services 11/14/2003
My wife has trained me to service her by drinking her pee.
She uses a variety of ways to do this - champagne flutes,
mixed with wines and tea, etc. Now she is asking that I also
respect her monthly flows. She recently put a fresh tampon
in tea (sort of like a tea bag) and asked me to drink the tea
- which I did. I am a bit concerned aboutthe health implications.
If there are none, i ...
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My boyfriend when he cums 11/14/2003
When my boyfriend cums real big, very shortley after he
has a panic attach. Hes never done this with another woman
and we are both worried and confused. Has this happened
to anyone else that you know?
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re: fantasies 11/14/2003
Yours is a very valid concern if you are not familiar with
how to carry out a fantasy that could cross the line. It is
good that you ask. First of all you should find out if this
is just a fantasy in her head or a fantasy she would like to
live out. Some fantasies are just that...fantasies and
one desires it to go no further. It doesn't always mean
the person wants to actually do it. Then ...
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re: knight in shining armor 11/14/2003
Uh...yeah...many ARE looking for their "soul mate".
This I know because this I have seen and experienced. Please
don't take your part of the world and project onto everyone
else's. Unless and until you have interviewed more
than 50% of the people on this site, collected all the data
and know for certain that they are only seeking to get laid,
don't make assumptions. It goes without saying ...
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Re: Dom over the internet 11/13/2003
I had the same problem, if your sub has a webcam things are
easier, but if not then things get much harder.
<br>
Webcam: If your sub has handcuffs or ropes of their own then
tell them to tie themselves up, it has to be done by them and
you have to able to see it clearly. Also making them put a
gag on works well as it's uncomfortable. the sub shouldn't
hit themself as they won't ...
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RE: Dom over the internet 11/12/2003
First you must really have the subs interest and commitment
if she really wants to be your sub then you can deny her the
things she wants from you. If you cyber with her then stop
in the middle, if she wants you to contact her at a set time,
be late without an excuse, you do not have to apolagize who
is in control here , you or her? withholding your approval
can make her understand. Then ...
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Re: Meeting off line for the first time....... 11/12/2003
My suggestion towards a safe meeting would be to chat quite
a bit, at least one phone conversation, an exchange of photos,
then after you feel comfortable with enough knowledge
about him or her a meeting in a public place such as a resturaunt,
coffee shot, hotel bar, etc. Then if you are not completely
comfortable you can easily just leave or at the very least
alert someone such as the ...
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Response to: giving g/f orgasms 11/11/2003
Have you tried asking her what she likes/ doesn't like?
That'd be where I'd start, regardless of whether
this was a D/s relationship or not. In general, males and
females often know what works best for them either through
experience or perhaps even through masturbation. Sharing
that information with a partner allows for creating a variety
of sexual fun that meets each person's needs. Good ...
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fantasies 11/10/2003
My friend has these fantasies....
how far can you go and how are you supposed to get started
?
What are the rules ? Does anybody have some good advice ?
<br>
I mean how o you nkow when to stop or when it is still a play
?
I would like to full my friends fantasies but i'm afraid
I
might not notice when to stop.
<br>
Thanks for the help
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Through a Newcomers Eyes 11/10/2003
I always knew i was missing something in my life and i wasnt
quite sure what it was. I had no clue really what BDSM was
or what the lifestyle was about. alt.com was recommended
to me by a friend. I decided to check it out. When i first signed
up i had the name HotCanadianBabe. I had always been in vanilla
only relationships at this point in my life. I sat back and
watched for a bit and ...
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Response to "Re: Knight In shining Armor???" 11/9/2003
Thanks to "Daddygirl1961" response. I completely
agree with your response, and you couldn't be more
right, however, I still get tired of some of the 'intimidating'
ads saying "No marrieds", etc., yet they go
on and on about what they are looking for in their idea of
a perfect mate. It just seems that here on Alt.com there
are so many of them looking for soul mates, yet you'll
have to agree ...
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help i need advice 11/9/2003
i have just come into this lifestyle and want to broaden
my fettish lifestyle and want to meet somebody who will
help me with this (preferably female), whats the best way
to meet somebody in our lifestyle?
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Knight in Shining Armor?? 11/7/2003
Having been a member of Alt.com for a couple of years, and
having read many stories, and viewing a few hundred ads,
I must say that there is a fair percentage of women looking
for 'their knight in shining armor'. Quite a few
ads say "single men only", or at least such has
been expressed in almost 'intimidating' terms.
I must say to them that they are completely out of their element.
This ...
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Cuckold 11/7/2003
A cuckold is when a man's wife is unfaithful. A cuckold
is a sucker. He's the last to know.
<br>
I can't help you out with the rest.
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Response to: What is Knife Play 11/5/2003
Knife play is exactly that--the use of a knife or other blade
(swords come to mind) to stimulate, excite, incite a sense
of fear. What are the extremes? Something as minimal as
tracing the backside of the blade across the skin and slicing
off clothing. I have had to replace manymany sets of underpants
because my x liked to slice them off me. To the other end are
people who like to have ...
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spanking 10/31/2003
looking for advice on how to involve my wife into putting
me over her knee and turning my arse pink. i've asked
her a dozen times before but she says she's affraid
to hurt me. i've even handed her the paddle and bent
over but after the first strike she stops. Any advice would
be helpful.
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response to - how to teach someone about anal sex 10/30/2003
Well, i am neither an 'expert' when it comes to
anal penetration but have had quite a number of good experiences.
So here are my thoughts on this matter....
<br>
If he really wants to try it then really he should understand
that you would only want it to be perfect. Maybe he does not
even know how you feel about this.....try talking to him.
Explain to him you fear the pain and do ...
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Am I a good submissive 10/30/2003
Just looking for a little advice. I have been in the lifestyle
for a year and a half. So
far, I have only had relations with professional mistresses.
In fact, until recently,
I had only dealt with one. I had good feelings toward her,
and I was lucky enough
to serve her a few times, taking her to fetish events and
such. Knowing she was pro,
I did not expect an intimate kind of ...
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responce to Dom asking sub to bring collar 10/28/2003
I am a Domme/I have taken a sub to the store, picked out his
collar and made him pay for it.But no I would not tell u to
bring ur own collar, especially for the first meeting!It
takes more than a week of chatting on phone and I/M to deside
if u want to b collared by somebody.It takes time 4 a Master/Mistress, sub/slave
to get to know each other and to feel safe with each other.
Being ...
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How to teach someone about anal sex. 10/27/2003
I have engaged in anal sex only twice in my life and had a good
partner to do it properly without great pain and with patience
he made it pleasureable. My current husband has never had
the opportunity to give anal sex, and I know he wants to.
I am at a loss as to how to teach him, and to teach him the patience
required to accomplish our goal. I don't want this
to be painful for me, ...
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Response to Types of Collars 10/24/2003
As you say, whether it's too soon for a collar really
depends on what a collar means. Different people have different
collars. Some people never use a collar as more than a toy.
Some people think it's like a wedding ring. Some people
think it's like going steady. Some people have a scheme
with different grades of collars depending on the seriousness
of the relationship. There's no one ...
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Response to "Secretary" 10/19/2003
FANTASTIC MOVIE!!!! I think it shows a variety of things
that people should see, normal human emotion while walking
slowly into D/s. Great movie I had just gotten it on DVD the
other day and watched it while I was sick yesterday.
Pamperedpet33
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Support for Learn the Difference 10/16/2003
Don't EVER apologize for speaking up and saying what
you think.
<br>
You bring up a valid point and are quite correct. There are
too many here who think that slapping the word master or
dominant onto their name makes them one. They get all huffy
when I give them a couple book titles to read (The Loving
Dominant and Come Hither are my top two titles for newbies
and wannadoms.)
...
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Ladies! We have another Definition King! 10/13/2003
"Sender: samco52
To: PamperedPet33
Date: Oct 13, 2003 12:49 AM CDT
Two things, 1-curvy is another word for fat, 2-divorced
is another word for bitch.
Peace,
Sam"
Oh yes Ladies another of the "Great Thinkers"
has made the scene. If you see this individual, please by
all means...Pity him greatly for his ill informed opinions.
This poor choice for Darwins evolutionary ...
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RE: in response ..dom asking sub to bring her own collar 10/11/2003
No, i had never meet the guy before, we exchanged a few letters
on ALT , then had a few phone chats
Decided when he asked this, that it was insane, so decided
never the twain shall meet..
dusktilldawn666
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